So often we forget what true love is, what Agape love is. We want love back so much that we sacrifice the true meaning for our own selfishness. Love is not always this mushy lovey feeling that is accompanied by butterflies. Love- suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
When this verse says love does not seek its own, its saying that it doesn’t want anything in return. We skip over confrontation, speaking the truth in love, correction, all for the sake of what? Being accepted and wanting love in return? What a confronting scripture this is…a scripture that is just so convicting. As I read through the gospels, it amazes me to see the way Jesus loved others. It is so different then how the world says we should. Notice that many, many people disliked Jesus. Why? Because He didn’t seek His own, He truly wanted their good (even if it didn’t feel good for them in the moment). He consistently rebuked the very people that literally hung Him on the cross-the people He knew were going to be putting Him up on that cross.
How often do we see a family loving a son or daughter to the death? For example: She is deep in addiction and the family keeps bailing her out every time she gets in a bad spot, so she can just keep on going around and around the same mountain. You don’t give someone who is already stealing, in and out of jail, lying, manipulating, etc… money or a place to live. Consequences to actions are so very important and as you read the bible, it is filled with the same message. Being support for them/letting them know you are praying for them, and letting them know you are always there for them when they get a repentant heart is so very important. On another note though the very 50 dollars you give them for food (or whatever you think they will spend it on) may be the very 50 dollars that they buy heroin with and overdose. It’s called enabling and it’s not true love. There is no fear in love and perfect love casts out fear. So if you are giving them money because you are fearful for their life-then what? That is not Gods unconditional love. That is self-seeking. But by the worlds standards-is this love? Most definitely!
-On a personal note-had the Lord never put people in my life to love me in this way…I am fairly positive I would be dead.
This was just one example from one portion of this scripture on love. I ask Lord, that you would reveal what part right now that we could each be working on, and that you would give us the full revelation why it is so important to love like you, and give us the grace to do so. Thank you and I praise you in the precious name of Jesus.
! Corinthians 13:4-7
1 John 4:18